Two Books That Changed My Life
A while ago I was having an issue with my boyfriend at the time and as a separate issue, with my co-worker. My coworker was a bigger and more prevalent issue. They were manipulative and there was a lot of drama at work, to the point where I had to take a sick day I was crying so hard and couldn't get my composure.
This changed drastically when I read Boundaries in Marriage
. It talks about boundaries as perimeters. A boundary doesn't say, you can't do that. You have no control over that. Once you have figured out what you won't tolerate, a boundary says, if you do that, then I will do this.
I learned that it's important to speak up early, establish your boundary and stay firm. It made things a bit better once I had a bit more control of the situation.
I learned that it's important to speak up early, establish your boundary and stay firm. It made things a bit better once I had a bit more control of the situation.
I was reading Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man
The way he said it just hit home. It helped me be more articulate in what I want. I told my guy friend that I think he's looking for a throwback and I'm a keeper. I told him that I'm looking for a keeper and I only hug and hold hands and cuddle with people I'm considering for marriage. Therefore, he isn't allowed to touch me. I told him that what I need out of a relationship to be happy are about four things.
First, I need to be number two in my man's life (God is number one). Second, I need him to respect me. Third, I need him to be as invested in the relationship as I am. Finally, I want to work together as a team.
Whether or not he steps up, I feel better. I feel more feminine and powerful. I feel more confident.
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